Yes, I’m pretty sure you’ve seen those memes of what is clearly a representation of the manual which explains how the female brain works, but even if you were to get your hands on something like that you’d have a hard time actually grasping the concept of how those of the fairer sex actually think. If you’re browsing around for some female company in a bar or a club however, that sort of levels the playing field and as much as the only sure-fire way of knowing whether or not a girl is interested in you is by asking them (not outright, of course), there are some signs you can pick up on which will make the job that much easier for you.
I mean I’d like to say that you should rediscover that you have a pair and just go for your guns and chat up the first girl you see who you’re interested in, but we all know it’s just not that easy, even if you’re with your boys and the confidence levels are sky-high. The confidence flows like a river in any case, with some days symbolising a river as it flows right after a heavy rainstorm, while other days resemble a river which is suffering the effects of a drought.
So if you want to make your job easier and perhaps only really “waste your time” or try your luck with those girls you think might have a mutual interest in getting together, there are indeed some subtle signs which can set you along on the right path.
Assuming you think highly of yourself (as you should) and you feel like the James Bond type as soon as you walk into a bar or a club, make a note of the initial eye contact you make with all the ladies with whom you could potentially strike up a conversation with. Really try to make eye-contact – ladies and I suppose other gents as well will look up to see who just walked in, if only just to merely see. It doesn’t mean they’re interested per se, but at least you then know who has caught first sight of you.
Assume a vantage point
You’ll be lucky if some singleton makes long enough eye-contact with you to demonstrate an interest by perhaps smiling or in any other adjustment of their body language, which could perhaps be your cue to go in for the kill immediately and waste no time, but otherwise you must act like you just don’t care and make as if you’re just going about your business of getting your drink.
You need to pick a good spot though – a spot which makes for a great vantage point from which you can get the best view of all potential mates you made eye contact with when you first walked in.
This is where you can apply some psychological methods to gauging interest in the form of reading the change in their body language. If one of your potential matches keeps glancing over in your direction or they keep making eye contact, jackpot, so too if they perhaps act like they just don’t care themselves but they turn their bodies in your general direction.
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